Strong woman or weak wife?

For the past week I was deeply enthralled in the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy and once I began reading I had one thought, I WOULD NOT MAKE A GOOD SUBMISSIVE. This just doesn't apply to BDSM (Bondage Dominance and Submission Masochism) but in regular relationship situations. I am definitively not a "yes" person; I need to know the hows, whys and ifs behind everything request or thought. What about you ladies? How submissive are you to your partners? Are you strong enough to put your convictions aside and let him take control? And why is it so hard for us give up that control? We married the guy why not let him take control? How far does your trust extend?

Personally, this is something I know I need to work on because I have huge issues with relinquishing control over parts of my life. But why? Relationships are made of constant compromise, and it takes a strong person to say OK, I'll allow you to have this or take care of this and I'll wait. Or, during a argument both parties cannot win, someone has to say OK you win and walk away in order for the argument to end. I have seen men do this quite a bit, as they know if they don't admit they were wrong and submit to the woman, the argument could go on forever and as a result he wouldn't get any loving for possibly the rest of the week. They do this to have a good nights rest and regain some quiet in the home and possibly let her be happy thinking she won the argument. As women, how often do we take the road less traveled and say "you're right" or "I'm sorry" just to keep the peace and keep things flowing?

On another note, how about SERVING your man, the essence of submitting? I agree that after a long day at work, coming home to a very active 5 year old and making dinner while doing the laundry the last thing on our mind is giving our men a foot rub...especially if he's watching TV while you're slaving in the kitchen. But, what if we forget the laundry for one night and rub his feet, massage his back wear those crotch less panties that he likes? He might be more amenable to doing the laundry the next day. I'm not saying bribe him with sex, I'm saying please your man, comfort him and perhaps he might say "Damn, she cooks, she cleans let me show her some appreciation by loading the wash". Its called compromise; you serve him and he serves you.

I remember years ago, when an older female friend asked me if I ever cooked for my boyfriend at the time, I said "Oh hell no!" Why would I cook for him, we're just boyfriend and girlfriend. All I kept hearing was my mother in my ear "hmm, you better watch dem little boys and dem. All dey want is one ting." I was being so vigilant, trying to look at everything, making sure he didn't "get one over on me" that I was being a less than perfect girlfriend. He always came over, always took me wherever I needed I needed to be without me having to ask, made sure I got to work on time....But I never cooked him dinner, I never offered to pay for the gas in the car, and I never freely gave him a foot rub. I was accepting all the things he did for me as just a part of us being together and all he needed was my thanks and good company. To show my appreciation I spent more weekends at my mother's house and learned to cook different dishes. He was very appreciative.

Are we women brainwashed into thinking that if we give a little of ourselves in a relationship that the man will take advantage of our vulnerability? There is always that possibility in all relationships, but if we don't give, just even a little, there's a better chance that a good man may walk away and find someone who will rub his back and cook his dinner. 

What are your thoughts, does it take a strong woman to submit to the needs of her partner? 

P.S....in search for pictures for this post, I looked for woman giving a foot rub, and there was none. Instead I found several pictures with men rubbing women's feet. Just saying.