I am all for GIRL POWER, and for women claiming the right to wear what they want, style their hair the way they please, have relationships with who they want, and having a family or not. Your personal choices are your own business, and no one should have the right to tell you or suggest otherwise. What gets under my skin is OTHER WOMEN ridiculing or passing judgement on a specific group of women, i.e., the group that is not like them.
Why is it that because you can rock a 'fro you must judge women who rock the doobie? Or because you you know where to get your vintage items at the Flea market you make fun of the girl that loves her Juicy Couture sweats Or because you smell like Shea Butter and Coconut oil and she smells like Chanel No. 5 means that she can't engage in a conversation just as competently as you can?. Why are her morals, beliefs, education, ethics, thoughts, lifestyle any less important than yours?
I see both kinds of women as strong individuals able to carve out their own individuality while still being capable of fighting against "The Man". We don't need to wear "Jesus Sandals" and African Printed skirts, peasant blouses and a 'fro to be taken seriously. If you think the woman fabulously dressed in high end designer wear rocking her chemical relaxer and pumps is silly or can't be taken seriously then you are the one in need of a perspective adjustment.
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| Tihana Nemcic, 24, Head Coach of Men's Soccer team in Croatia |
I was browsing through some comments that a group of women made about a picture of a woman in heels and a miniskirt, kicking a soccer ball. I immediately thought that the woman, Tihana Nemcic, was talented; to be able to balance herself in heels, a miniskirt while show casing her athletic capabilities (she's the first female coach of an a men's soccer team in Croatia), however, two of the the comments were very disappointing. While Ms. Nemcic is attractive and obviously fit, she was criticized for wearing heels and her physical appearance. The ladies commenting missed the point of the picture entirely and took nothing away except a sexual image. What about her contribution to the sport? And her advancement for the women in Croatia? By belittling the picture and this woman's achievement, they have opened the way for some other ass to say women don't belong on an athletic field but in beauty pageants, and exposed their own insecurity about being attractive and athletic and a positive role model all at the same time.
This woman in the picture proves that all are possible.
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| Tihana Nemcic |
There is no Feminist Purity test, there is no test that proves that you're either for us or against us. you choose to live your life the best way you can to advance yourself, and by doing that you become your own litmus test. You prove that you can do whatever you want while wearing what ever you choose and no loud mouthed insecure tunnel visioned coward can say otherwise.
I live my life solely for my own happiness. No one makes my decisions and imposes their thoughts or beliefs on me. I am my own woman.
P.S....Did I mention Ms.Nemcic is only 24?!?!?!


Great post Lynn. It is one of the reasons that I sometimes hesitate to fully embrace the Feminist, girl power regime. I am all for women bonding together, achieving a biases men world, but not by acting like men with breasts. I also do not think that we need to adopt the us versus them attitude on ANYTHING.
ReplyDeletei think that is one of the best assets of a woman VERSATILITY! Strength, Competence, softness, emotion, sexuality, compassion etc etc all wrapped up in one unique package. And...if my package is not like yours SO BE IT. Learn to live and let live. We are too often our own worse enemies.
By the time I responded to this post that unfortunate incident in Grenada at HHSS has taken place. A 13 year old girl stabs a 15 year old boy to death. A tragedy all round for both families, the school and the country as a whole. What is frightening though are some of the expressions from WOMEN, MOTHERS demonizing and dehumanizing the "child".
Planned or not, that incident indicates that she is troubled and needs HELP not condemnation. For the mothers who want to draw and quarter her, what if it was your daughter?
Totally agree!
ReplyDeleteI wanted to address the incident, just not sure how you go about addressing something so horrible.
Thanks for your comment Nathifa!